...read all about it !!! Please welcome a guest post from Tara Chevrestt
Losing My Sex Scene Virginity
When
I first penned Love Request (my first
ever romance), I said, “I’m not going to have a sex scene. Nobody needs it. We
all know part A goes into part B.” And so I wrote a lovely little story about
two people meeting, falling in love, all that, and though I had them “doing it”,
it was closed door. They entered the room, shut door, kissed, said words of
love, end of scene. The next scene was pillow talk.
This
book got contracted with a romance publisher the first time around. I received
my edits. To the right of my MS was a little comment box. “We don’t do closed-door
sex. Tell us what happens here.” And even though there was a little smiley face
with it, I gasped. “Noooo! I cannot
write sex! My family will disown me!”
I
said this to the editor. The editor asked the higher ups. They said, “No sex at
all, not even implied OR the scene must be there.”
This
being a contemporary romance and the characters being who they were, I needed
them to have relations for the story line to reach the satisfying conclusion
(yes, that’s a pun) I was aiming for. I felt between a rock and a hard place
(another pun). I was deeply embarrassed and frustrated by this turn of events.
A consultation with a very important person was in order.
I
texted my dad. The conversation went something (not exact) like this:
Me:
Dad! So I signed over this romance story I wrote, and they want me to add sex!
And it’s already contracted! I’m so upset!
Dad:
Why?
Me:
Cause it’s SEX! How will you and Mom feel about me writing that?
Dad:
Sex doesn’t have to be nasty. Make it special between two people that love each
other. It will be a beautiful thing then.
And
later, my editor said, “It will help show their relationship evolve.”
After
two hours of pulling my hair, texting my dad, emailing my editor, and ranting
to my pug, I finally sat down at the computer and wrote my first sex scene.
When I was no longer with that publisher and I had an offer for the book from
another publisher, provided I remove
the sex, I didn’t want to, because it really was a special thing between two
people who love each other. Hunter and Ciara...what they have is love, love that has transcended a hella
lot of time.
I
rejected that offer and I couldn’t be happier with its home with Pagan Writers
Press now. And the relationship-evolving sex stayed. ;)
I’ve
wrote many more since then. You could say I finally broke a barrier (bad pun!) that
night.
But
I’ll tell you a secret *lowers voice and glances around* as a reader, I often
skip the sex scenes!
So,
tell me, readers, how important is sex in a book to you? When is appropriate
and when is it too much?
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Blurb
When Ciara Littleton takes the plunge and finally joins
Facebook to
socialize without the limits that her hearing
impairment gives her, on a whim, she looks up a childhood friend. In sending
him that first message, she ignites the memories of a crush from twenty years
ago. But can a simple friend request fix all that stands between them and lead
to something more?
Hunter has a lot on his plate. A recent divorce, a pregnant sister, and now, he realizes he's in love with a woman who lives states away. Can he overcome the boundaries of Internet romance to make this desire turn into something real, or will adversity and distance be their undoing--adversity being in the form of his very own sister--the woman who bullied Ciara so mercilessly long ago?
Hunter has a lot on his plate. A recent divorce, a pregnant sister, and now, he realizes he's in love with a woman who lives states away. Can he overcome the boundaries of Internet romance to make this desire turn into something real, or will adversity and distance be their undoing--adversity being in the form of his very own sister--the woman who bullied Ciara so mercilessly long ago?
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Author Info
Tara Chevrestt is a deaf woman, former aviation
mechanic, writer, and an editor. She is most passionate about planes,
motorcycles, dogs, and above all, reading. That led to her love of writing.
Between her writing and her editing, which allows her to be home with her
little canine kids, she believes she has the greatest job in the world. She is
very happily married.
Her theme is Strong is Sexy. She shares a website with
her naughty pen name: http://tarachevrestt.weebly.com/index.html
and they have a Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Tara-Chevrestt-Sonia-Hightower/218383211513877
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ReplyDeleteI do not think I could EVER write a sex scene -- I even have a had time saying 'sex' out loud, much less describe it.
ReplyDeleteI think there are some very good, beautiful stories written that do not have sex. And I don't think the sex is necessary.
HOWEVER, there are some stories where I guess the sex is almost a 'character'.
I don't think I *need* the sex in a book, and I might even skip over some of it -- but occasionally I do read it (& even re-read it - oooo ).
I thought it interesting that you would ask your father about writing the scene -- I doubt I could have ever even mentioned 'make love' much less 'sex' to either of my parents!!
I had to make sure he wasn't going to disown me...LOL But he was banned from reading it. :)
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